#1 Do what you want to.
What makes you happy?
Surfing, Skateboarding, Flying, Drumming, Singing, etc…
Make some time to do that especially if it is something you can share. Be careful of selfish things that make you feel as if you are doing something. Don’t get consumed, let it flow
#2 Do not let anyone change your attitude.
If you don’t like what someone’s doing then call them on it.
Just be careful not to get involved with other people’s need’s.
You could end up doing what you did not intend to
Being who you want to be means not letting others upset you or make you do what you would not want to do. This does mean to replace kindness with weakness. Quite the other way. It takes strength to let it pass, move on and forgive and forget.
#3 Learn Self Defense
Some of the loudest jerks (and jerket’s, lol) are because they need to prove something to themselves. This is dangerous, when you are unsure of your self you can overreact and make the littlest thing in to a life or death situation.
True story,
A group of friends showed up at my rehearsal room and one of the girls asked if she could play my drums. I agreed, then she beat the drums (like someone trying to prove something, lol) so I grabbed the sticks out of her hands and said, this is how you play the drums. As I turned around I saw two fists flying my direction. I grabbed the wrists and said “Chill Out!” and let go. He lunged again and I ended up on top of him however, he had his arm around my neck. I said “Let go and this never happened ”, to which he replied “I am gonna kill you!” I broke free and hit him once. He laid there knocked out for what seemed like eternity. Lucky for me he woke up and left peacefully. I felt so bad thinking I killed him. Even if he deserved it, I felt terrible.
What this taught me though is that you can kill with your hand’s, without even trying. So I have stayed calm even while being jumped and simply grabbed the opponents wrists or arm and let them know. You cannot hurt me so don’t even try. It has worked so far, so am I weak for refusing to hit someone? I don’t think so 🙂
#4 Exercise
Walk, run, swim, ride, climb, get out and get active. If your snowed in then run in place.
Do not push yourself, ease into it. The fastest drum chops are practiced slowly. The highest jumps start by feeling the ramp. etc, etc…
#5 Make Something
Create a great meal to share, write a song, a poem, a blog. If you don’t, you could become a vampire. Feeding off other’s creativity.
Be the light that sparks a fire in another
#6 Don’t Go To Extreme’s
If you are too passive you may give away your soul.
If you are too stiff you could break.
Speak up if you feel something is not right.
Back down if you feel yourself getting angry
As soon as you get angry you loose
#7 Pay It Forward
Do the best you can every chance
#8 Don’t Should on Yourself
What you say can effect your life.
Be kind in your observations of other’s, this will make you kind to yourself
Do not hang out with negative people, you may get in to a competition!
#9 Live in the moment
You can never redo this moment so make the best of it.
#10 Live by Your Word
Integrity can build fortune’s
Mistrust can destroy it
#11 Keep things temporary and specific.
You can make temporary incident’s in to permanent and pervasive with words like Always and forever, or never.
sample’s:
I am always late
You are never on time
Get it?
